Journal of Nursing Jocularity

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The In ‘N Out Patient by Kris Harty

The Short Chick with the Walking Stick. Yep, that would be me.

Apparently, one or the other characteristic wasn’t enough, so I’m in the enviable position of offering both. Or as we said in college, a two-fer. Of course, then it applied to beer.

Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis does leave its mark, or marks.

“How short are you, Kris?” The civil response to the oft-asked question is 4’6.” I am often thinking a much less appropriate answer. Be nice, Kris.

My shortness resulted from the medication I took in the first five years of the disease. Back in 1971, there were limited prescription options for arthritis, especially for kids.

The regime involved liquid cortisone, gold injections and a little bottle of Bayer.

I am grateful for the liquid cortisone. And I rue the liquid cortisone.

On the plus side, it kept me walking. Barely, but it did. I cringe thinking of the indescribable pain back then. I rarely complained, yet I know today I’d be a blubbering baby about it. Is it possible for wimpy genes to kick in later in life?

Five years is past any recommended dosing timeframe because the drug inhibits bone growth. Yet it was the only option. I don’t fault my then-family doctor or rheumatologist. They had no other recourse.

Yet here I am, four decades later, and when I sit on a friend’s couch, I do a terrific Edith Ann impression. You remember who I’m talkin’ about.

With that, we’ll move on to easily identifiable characteristic #2: the walking stick, which came to me in my senior year of high school. Yes, indeed, it’s high on the wish list of every high school senior.

I experienced my first round of hip replacements the summer before senior year. Since then, in an effort to prevent complicated surgeries due to fractures induced by off-balance falling, my right hand has seldom been without a walking stick in its grip.

Between the shortness and the cane, my stride is neither long nor super woman quick. And a number of years ago, it was much less quick than it is now. So when I saw this 30 second video, I could relate.

Just like the little old lady in the vid, I’ve also been honked at as I’ve passed in front of cars. Being the ornery person I sometimes am, the honking simply serves to encourage me to further slow down. While creeping along as annoyingly as I can, I’ll flash at the driver what my dear friend Lynne has coined The Harty Glare.

The driver invariably looks peeved, insulted, shocked or sheepish. This is way too much fun. So I milk it a bit more. Bad Kris, bad.

One day I may try using my walking stick in the same manner as the little old lady used her bag. If you hear about such an incident on the news, it’s probably me.

Ah, yes, just another day in the life of the Short Chick with the Walking Stick.

Stickability Specialist Kris Harty helps healthcare teams persevere through Compassion Fatigue. Kris is Chief Inspiration Officer of Strong Spirit Unlimited. By sharing Stickabilities, or tools, she learned from her own medically challenging life requiring a Walking Stick, Kris encourages healthcare professionals to Stick to it – no matter what! Diagnosed at age seven with Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis, she draws on 40 years of insight, research and stories as a healthcare recipient. She is the patient who now returns to say “You make a difference. Thank you.” Her message is content-rich, practical, engaging and inspiring – and sporadically funny. Kris reduces burnout, turnover, and Compassion Fatigue by re-engaging healthcare professionals, particularly nurses. Kris Harty is an inspirational keynote speaker, author and small group facilitator who helps people overcome challenges by creating unstoppable momentum in life and work. Clients say her message is life changing. Call 877.711.STICK, e-mail StrongSpirit@StrongSpiritUnlimited.com , or visit www.StrongSpiritUnlimited.com

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Get a Life by Loretta LaRoche

I have a very dear friend whom I’ve known for years. We now live several hundred miles apart and don’t see each other all that often, but we make it a habit to talk on the phone at regular intervals. A few weeks ago it occurred to me that we hadn’t spoken in quite some time, so I called her at home, and got her voice mail. “ Hello, please leave me your name and number and the reason for your call, and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.”

Two days later she called me from her car phone.”Hi, it’s me. I’m so sorry I haven’t called in such a long time. Things here have been just insane! I’ve been working so hard it’s unbelievable. I had to work on a project all weekend, and when I wasn’t working, I had to take the kids to a birthday party and two play dates. I haven’t had a minute to call. I’m so overwhelmed I just don’t know what to do.”

I didn’t know what to say to her. How absurd! We haven’t spoken for a month, then she takes the first ten minutes of our conversation to tell me that she’s too busy to talk to me.

Divulging every ounce of our daily “doings” has become a fact of life. I don’t know when it started, but I cannot recall my grandmother or mother having a need to report how busy they were to everyone that came across their path.

Perhaps we’re hoping that someone will come to our rescue if we appear as if we’re going to have a nervous breakdown. I have to realize that the only that will rescue me is me!

Unfortunately, we are also in an era where “real listening” has been replaced by practicing what you’re going to say while the other person is talking. Whoever you’re telling how busy you are is chomping at the bit to be even more fatigued and overwhelmed.

I am beginning to wonder if we really want relief or has the mindset of a never ending list of tasks become the new model of self-worth?

If so we are totally missing the point about what it means to live a fulfilling life. I doubt that at the end of our days that people will be eulogizing how busy we were. I would hope that we will be remembered for the joy, laughter, compassion and understanding we brought to our friends, co-workers and family.

Now that’s a busy that’s worth it.

Loretta LaRoche writes the Get a Life column for the Patriot Ledger.

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Not So Serious Selfcare: Cracking (A Smile) Under Pressure

Last week, we examined ways to integrate humor into your self-care routine. Self care is essential for all nurses, as it helps preserve your health, provide emotional resiliency, and keep you better positioned to provide optimum care for your patients. This week, we’ll be looking at a trio of specific techniques you can use to address the pressures of nursing — both the obvious challenges of patients, doctors, and colleagues, and the less discussed but still critical pressures inherent in the profession.
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From the Publisher

karynb08-055It’s April, and no fooling, here we are with another issue of JNJ!

April is National Humor Month, a time to celebrate what makes us laugh: at work, at home, and everywhere in between.

This is easier said than done, especially for nurses. The work we do puts us in a unique position: so much of what we do deals with people in intimate, life-changing moments. It’s grave, and dark, and serious — so much so that when we identify the funny moments, one of the most often heard reactions is “You can’t laugh about THAT!” It’s as if the serious nature of nursing precludes us from the human need to deal with stress, diffuse tension, and regain our composure by using one of the most natural and readily available tools: laughter. (more…)

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