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Get a Life by Loretta LaRoche

The other night I clicked onto the” movies on demand” station and as I scrolled through possible selections, a young woman’s voice relentlessly announced and reviewed other possible selections. As I became more and more perturbed by her faux cheeriness, I realized that I could hit the mute button and her barrage of words would be eliminated. The relief I felt from the silence was immediate. I also realized that we somehow have transitioned into a society that is always bombarded with someone talking about something.

There was a time when television stations shut down and all you saw and heard was static. I often yearn for static. At least it doesn’t share any kind of information. Most often you don’t have any choice in whether you want to hear the incessant “blah, blah, blah”. It seems to permeate every public area. 

Try going to a restaurant and simply enjoying a meal with some quiet background music. Not a chance! More often than not, there are two or three flat screen TV’s  each airing different programs. After all we don’t want the customers to go into withdrawal.

Many people have the TV on all day so they don’t miss anything that might be happening here or somewhere on the planet. The insanity lies in the repetition. Take the recent alert for hurricane Earl. Every station reported it and went over it until most of us could have gotten a degree in meteorology.

Yes, I could have turned it off, but my passion is the observation of absurdity, and nothing was more absurd then watching one of the reporters describing waves as she was buffeted about the beach in an almost horizontal position.

Many talk shows not only have guests but also include a panel of” so called experts” that engage in verbal boxing matches”. Outshouting and interrupting in order to get their point across is par for the course. I guess listening while someone else talks and then responding has gone out of style in exchange for being rude.  

But then, what’s new? We have all seen the erosion of civility over the years as we marched into the era of “self absorption”. I am always optimistic that we may wake up some day and actually start listening to one another, but until then I have a new best friend, “the mute button”.

Loretta LaRoche writes the Get a Life column for the Patriot Ledger.

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Get a Life by Loretta LaRoche

Being true to oneself can be very difficult, especially for women. We are by nature nurturers, and that need seems to make us feel the need to take care of everything we come in contact with, often at the expense of our health.

I find it interesting that June Cleaver seems to have returned from the dead. So many young women are repeating a history that I’ve long left behind. They work; take care of their homes; and enroll their children in sports, accelerated learning classes, music lessons, and God knows what else so that the little ones can graduate from kindergarten with high honors.

These moms drive their children to and from these numerous events in their big SUVs, while complaining how tired they are (or they spend hours on the phone deciding whose turn it is to carpool). If that’s not enough, add in going to the gym, trying to manage the home front, and being sexy if they can manage to stay awake. As a result many of today’s young women are suffering from anxiety and depression.

Gee, I can’t imagine why!

I spent years believing that no one could do anything without my direction, and whatever needed to be taken care of would be done best by me. Age has not only tempered this mindset, but also for many of my female friends who’ve realized that no one’s going to reminisce about how perfect they were.

Much of life is like a movie or a play and we become the characters with a story line we’ve memorized. It’s often difficult to change the dialogue because the rest of the players are used to you giving them their cues.

It took me a long time to realize that I didn’t want to be known for how perfect I was, because it was really an illusion. My goal now is to be remembered as a wild, zany, eccentric mother and grandmother.

No one is perfect nor should they want to be. It’s a goal that only leads to anxiety and makes the people around you wish you’d be abducted by aliens.

Life is so much more fun when you loosen up and lighten up. The ultimate irony is that when you’re flexible, you’re actually more productive, and your friends and family will feel more relaxed and comfortable.

Loretta LaRoche writes the Get a Life column for the Patriot Ledger.

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Get a Life by Loretta LaRoche

Remember when you were a kid and you got into your heavy staring? Your mother would say, “Come back! Where are you, in La La Land?”

By now you’ve probably buried or diminished this wonderful place that can help us elicit inner peace and harmony. But as children we daydream often with grace and with great ease. It is because we are so clearly focused on our intent and where we are at any given moment.

If children see a kite, balloon, or bird, they will zero in on it like sonar and track it with complete absorption. As parents, we often scurry after a small child who is following something that they are completely absorbed in because we fear for their safety.

Becoming one with anything gets harder and harder as we get older because our minds become more and more cluttered with outside demands. Today we can be interrupted by some form of technology 24/7.

When we finally do try to give ourselves a respite from the constant cacophony of daily life, a nagging inner voice seems to begin plying us with guilty messages. “Why are you resting. You know you don’t have time for this! Get up don’t just sit there. You have lots to do. Keep going!”

Busyness has become a way of life, and it has even begun to infiltrate the world of children. Many parents spend their hours busing kids to and fro to a variety of organized activities. A lot of kids also spend hours in front of a TV or playing video games in lieu of going outdoors and building forts, flying kites, skipping, running, or watching a bunch of ants creating an ant hill.

We are fast becoming a nation that seems constantly focused on making everything, even fun productive. The irony attached to productivity, is that when we marry it to playfulness, we become more productive.

All of us would be happier, healthier and less stressed if we could rediscover La La Land. It is available throughout the day and can be a vacation from some of the daily irritations that are part of everyones’ lives.

Allow your mind to wander occasionally without reprimanding yourself, savor moments with your children without your inner critic telling you to “hurry up, there’s no time to waste”, and be silly whenever you can. You just might live longer.

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Change What You Think Is What You Get

Let me make this perfectly clear my friends, change is inevitable in the workplace today!!! Right nowwe are all experiencing very challenging times in regards to an uncertain and shaky economy. The result; companies are going out of business, people are getting laid off, and many are being forced to change their lifestyles. Regardless of the changes that take place in your life, you must know without a doubt that it’s not the change in and of itself that determines your fate, but rather it’s the thoughts you have about the change that really makes the difference. So, stop whining about it and think about what you’re thinking! In fact, your thoughts are the key factor as to whether you embrace the change and move forward with optimism or allow the changes to propel you in to a state of hopelessness.

I often speak to groups on how to embrace change in the workplace. Many times, within each audience the members pretty much have the same educational background, the same job description, and the same or similar responsibilities. Everyone is experiencing the changes that are taking place and yet I know for a fact even after they’ve heard my program that some, will move forward with enthusiasm and positive energy. They will also achieve great success and enjoy themselves during the process. Others will merely go through the motions because they have to, they will complain along the way and have great difficulty making their lives work. And some will become emotionally mentally paralyzed and unable to escape the grasp of fear.
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