Journal of Nursing Jocularity

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The In ‘N Outpatient by Kris Harty

“So let me get this straight…”

My friend Miranda didn’t need this extra bit of ridiculousness in her week. A contract she’d been pursuing for a business project fell through amidst voicemail- nightmare, the guy she thought might be more than ‘just a guy’ unexpectedly left the job where they’d met, the workplace aftermath was nasty, she didn’t have his home contact info, and her bottle of Xanax was empty.

So it was that Miranda found herself at the pharmacist’s window. “I got this prescription for panic attacks a long time ago; haven’t used it in ages. But I like to have a few on hand, just in case. I got through the week, but still…

“Yes, I have insurance. I’d like to pay for this refill out of my own pocket, though. I don’t want any record of this medication on my insurance. I don’t need to give them any reason to raise my rates or deny me coverage. Can you help me out?”

Miranda’s pharmacist was always willing to assist her clients. A bit of a character herself, her name tag simply read “The Queen.” “I didn’t realize they might do that, but let me see what we can do.”

Queenie always went the extra step for customers. “Yes, I can charge it to you directly. FYI, here’s the cost for insurance to refill it (showing Miranda the charge) and here’s the cost out of pocket.”

Miranda, lover of words, was speechless – for a moment. “So let me get this straight. I pay insurance premiums to reduce the cost of healthcare to myself. Yet for this prescription, it’s cheaper for me to pick up the entire tab than to pay the insurance co-pay?”

Queenie, ever the diplomat, confirmed, explaining, “I can’t say that’s the usual, but yes, in this case, that’s correct.”

The tidbits we learn in this, February’s Wise Health Care Consumer Month.

From then on, Miranda’s week improved and her heart lifted. What, or who, was responsible? None other than an unexpected email from the potential more-than-just-a-guy.

Miranda’s re-telling on the phone caused me co-butterflies. The ‘he’ of the email said he was thinking of her, and the thought of her always made him nervous and giddy, all at the same time.

And that made Miranda swoon. “I’m blushing! Isn’t that impossible after a certain age? He makes me nervous, too. I have butterflies!  Seriously, I feel like a schoolgirl again. I haven’t felt this way in decades. It’s kinda nice!”

I could feel her glowing over the phone. Her friend Ginger’s sing-songy text, serenaded. “You make him nervous. He makes you nervous. You got the butterflies! He wants to keeees you!!

Nothing like the spark of a potential love. We never outgrow those heart palpitations.

Miranda’s entire outlook improved. Who needs artificial chemicals when the real ones course through our veins?

“So let me get this straight. When it comes to the fluttering of the heart, we’re perpetually 16. And ain’t it totally grand?!”

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The Short Chick with the Walking Stick’s upcoming book celebrates professional caregivers as the StickSpirits they are. For four decades, they’ve helped Kris Harty Stick to It – No Matter What! She provides a patient’s perspective that is educational, inspirational, and insightful. Part memoir, part application, Kris helps student nurses, newer nurses and not-so-newer nurses remember why they joined their amazing profession in the first place. She shares how they positively impact patients’ lives, with minimal time and effort. Little things matter. Kris is the Thought Leader on People Helping People Persevere. She leads the conversation through writing, speaking, coaching, and small group discussions. A 40-year veteran of the medical industry – on the receiving end, Kris Harty is the Stickabilities Specialist at Strong Spirit Unlimited. If you’re looking for an effortless and meaningful way to lead your team toward continued quality caregiving, contact Kris. Call 877.711.STIC(K), email StrongSpirit@StrongSpiritUnlimited.com, or visit  www.StrongSpiritUnlimited.com.

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Get a Life by Loretta LaRoche

I’ve been single for almost five years. It has been a very interesting time in my life since I went from living with my parents to marriage.

When my first marriage failed, I married again.  However, after number two went bye, bye, after twenty years, I decided that I should figure out who I was. The following statement hit the nail on the head for me  “It’s like magic! When you live alone all your annoying habits go away!”

However, if you’re with the right person, your habits or theirs can be a great source of amusement. I have always felt that if we could all laugh at some of our crazy behaviors, not only would more marriages last, but the world would certainly be better off for it.

And so my dream has been to find “the man” who could do that. I was close to giving up, accommodating myself to living alone with a very amusing cat.

Lo and behold, the old metaphor, “When you stop looking, someone shows up” became a reality. What fascinates me is that two years ago, I wrote a description of the type of person I was hoping to find. He is exactly that person: funny, smart, compassionate, great sense of humor and a musician.

So here I am in a relationship, trying desperately not to carry my irrational habits forward into what could be a lasting union. I have found that a great deal of maturity has taken place because I find a lot of what he does amusing rather than irritating.

In my June Cleaver days, I would have been driven insane by cabinet doors left open or a toilet seat left up. Now I find it amusing.

I realize and acknowledge that I am not perfect, which was always one of my goals, so how can I expect someone else to be? Perfection is reality gone mad.

To believe that any of us can be made happy by another human being becoming our puppet is also crazy!

Laughter should be an essential part of any partnership. Without it, all behaviors become terminally serious.

It also helps to be with a person who prefers love over fighting, and hugging over hurting. The music we share is more than a plus. We have the same history of tunes and often break out into song.  I often feel that I am in a movie that I have written and directed.

But maybe the real lesson in all of this, is that when we are ready and willing to embrace love without a lot of hidden agendas, it enters our lives.

Loretta LaRoche writes the Get A Life Column for the Patriot Ledger.

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Love Lines by Greg Godek

greg-headshot1REPORTS FROM THE FRONT LINES OF THE GENDER WARS, ADDRESSED TO NURSES AND THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE THEM. SERIOUSLY RECORDED—WITH TONGUE (DEPRESSOR) FIRMLY IN CHEEK—FROM GREG GODEK, AUTHOR OF THE BESTSELLER 1001 WAYS TO BE ROMANTIC.

Romantic Advice: Grow Up.

Yes, yes, I know that, for the most part, the JNJ encourages your inner child to come out and play. But I’d like to talk to the adult part of your personality for a moment. The part that doesn’t giggle when sex is mentioned; the part that takes responsibility for your actions. Okay, here’s the deal: It’s time for you to take over. Enough of the childish crying over the fact that no one reads your mind and fulfills your every need; enough of the adolescent yearning for that perfect partner; enough of allowing your semi-suppressed unconscious fantasies to dictate your expectations.
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